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Well, every human have their own life lessons. They learn thing differently from each other depending on their state of life. Most of them went through both good and bad lessons. Also I am one of them. I have my own life lesson. I learned in from time to time and I’ve been through uncountable lessons. However, I will share with you only 20 things of what I have learned before I turned into 20 years old.

  1. Turing pain into power
    At some points in the stage of our life, people will think that life is pain. Like one of them, I also thought like that, I used to thought that I cannot accept it since there are so much pain in my life, until I found a great way, the way that I can turn my heavy pain into a great power.
  2.  My life is 100% my responsibility
    When I was young I never care about my life so much since I got supporting from my family. But year after year, as I grow up to be an adult I started to realize that our life should be 100% our responsibility since no one is going to stay with us forever. Thus, I started to take responsibility for my life.
  3. Drinking alcohol is not that really bad
    When I was a kid, I used to think that drinking alcohol is not a good habit, but becoming an adult make me realize that drinking alcohol is not that bad. Sometimes some people drink it  just to make their feeling better or release all the stress and pressure that they have. So as time past I change my point of view. Drinking alcohol is not bad as long as you can limit yourself.
  4. Forgive but never forget
    A lot of people did a lot of thing to me. Even, the one I consider as my best friend they still did something bad on me. Well, one lesson I learn from this is I can always forgive those who did wrong on me, but I never forget every bad thing that they did.       
  5. Move on from things
    Long ago, I used to post a status on my timeline about a thing which talked about “Anything is not always happens as we wish for it to be existing.” Tbh, back to that day I was in pain I never want to let the thing I love go. But sometime life is like that, thing is not always happens as we wish for it. If you still try to make thing that cannot happens to be  happened, or if you try to change the fate, all you got will be only one thing, and that thing is... PAIN. So, the best way I learned is try to move on from thing, you cannot stand still or stand in one place forever. As long as you want changes, you yourself must dare to step your leg and walk out of those terrible things.
  6. Enjoy the fun time I have
    Not every day is fun day, some day we can be happy, joyful, excited. And some day we might not lucky, you may fell into a big problem, stress thing, got blamed etc. Thus, what I learn along the way of my life is learn to appreciate the fun time we have, Cuz we might need to wait for so long for it to happen again.
  7.  Back to family
    Family is one part of my life which I did not focus on too much. Before I turned into 18, I always prioritize my requirements upon my family such as the time with friend, my work, my feeling and so on. After I became 18 I started to realize that we as a human being cannot forget the source that we came from, more or less at least we should spend some time for our family because we do not know what can be happened, also we are not Doctor strange who have a Time Stone to control the time.
  8. Grab the opportunity Cuz I won’t have the second chance
    Trust me, you should not wait for so long. Don’t think too much just do it first and let see the result. As I turn into 19, I started to know that chance is not always come to me. So What I think at time was just grab it, hold it tight, do my best, and do not focus too much on the result. If I fail, consider it as an experience, if I  succeed, let it be my achievement.
  9. Learn first love later
    A hard lesson!!! Anyone and anything need love right? I am one of them too. My dream is have someone who understand about me, love me, care about me, take care of me, and motivate me to achieve my goals. But guess what? I failed, and that failure took me down so deep. After, I fail of confession for 3 times, love started to be a disaster for me. It never leads me to good thing. That’s why, I choose to learn first and love later.
  10. Take risk or lose it
    Risk is what I need to take to achieve big achievements. Once I dare to take it and fight with it, I will be a victory. However, if I afraid of the risk that I are facing, and avoid from it I will never accomplish my goal. Good lesson!!
  11. Never change yourself for someone else
    Change myself for someone again? Hahahahah... I told you, you better choose someone who appreciates what you have, choose a person who can accept who you are. NEVER CHANGE YOURSELF FOR SOMEONE ELSE OUT THERE, I repeat.
  12. Life should be in the middle stage
    All I wish when I was young is to be happy all the time every day, every month and every year. In contrast, life is not the same as I thought, it goes up and down like the waves in the ocean. We cannot always have happy day or sad day forever. Life is the combination of happiness and sadness. 
  13. Take action is better than talking
    “Don’t tell people about your plan, show them your results.” A very great quote that I never forget. Arrogant help us nothing. We’d better take action first before we let people know about what we are doing.
  14. Don’t lose yourself again
    Before, as I mentioned I used to love someone so much until I dare to change myself for them. At that time also I nearly lost my own self because of loving that person too much. So I commit myself not to lost my mind again.
  15. Be a positive person
    Positive thoughts give you positive results. That’s all I got.
  16. Keep smiling
    Smiling give me hope, smiling give me power, smiling give me attractive. That’s why I alway tell myself to smile no matter how hard can it be. Even though I am in the hardest situation, smiling will be one of the best solutions. Just like a quote which said “Stay strong, make them wonder how you’re still smiling.”

                                                             
  17. Karma
    Since, I become an adult, all I think about is karma. I believe that people will get what they did in return. If I do good, good thing will come to me. Even I met some of bad guys, I still believe that there are still some good people out there. “The world is full of nice people, If you cannot find one, be that one.”
  18. Get out from a place where I am valued
    I used to afraid of losing, but I stopped when I surrounded by ignorance, judgement, bad criticism and so on. Find someone who value you, appreciate you, and criticize you in order to help you become a better YOU.
  19. Pause when I feel complicated
    Pause is differ from stop. Pause means you stop for a moment and continue. Stop means you stop it forever. That’s why I always pause myself to make my thinking get better.
  20. Be brave to show the world who I am
    At the past, I also used to be a kid who has the fear of anything. I was afraid of everything not only talking, doing, or asking and so on. Well, time flew, people changed right? So I know what I need to do now, is to be brave, dare to do anything, become fearless and ready to show the world who I am.

                               


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